“To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down.”
-- Woody Allen

Now that that's settled, moving onto the heartache business, which is indirectly related to the aforementioned quote. Aside from the physical/medical condition heartache, which is clear enough and if it isn't, Kay has made it plenty clear in the previous post. Now the other kind of heartache. I guess having one means firstly that something has happened that has struck a chord on something you feel very close to. I'll take it as given that it's negative. But a heartache is more than just feeling sad, it's the sorrow of something being taken from you that you know can't ever be properly replaced. It's not the tears, it's the lack of tears you wish you could start flowing because the tears are an outlet. A heartache has no outlet... it's something that only heals with time because we forget. Only time... unseen... unspoken... only felt. I don't even know if this makes any sense.


  posted by JW @ 10:26 PM

 
I think a heartache occurs anytime something happens that gives you that weird, uncomfortable, tightening sensation in your chest. There are varying intensities of heartaches. Some are -- literally -- a dull ache in their chest area that may physically be explained by a slight strain of the heart. Others describe extreme heartaches to feel like the heart itself is being torn in half.

Typically, heartaches a result of very sad events. For example:

- losing a loved one through death, breakups, or the severing of communication of any form
- losing an object that has a sort of special meaning, like a wedding ring (not as bad as above)

Heartaches can also happen when a sudden realization takes place that brings a sort of disadvantage to the heartbroken, or shakes up their reality in a harsh way. For example:

- realizing that your mother/father/sibling really isn't your mother/father/sibling
- realizing for the first time that the one you fancy doesn't fancy you back
- realizing how helpless you are, and that this world is a cruel, cruel world, and there's nothing you can do about it
- realizing that your significant other/close friend has cheated you

Keep in mind that the inability to visit Hawaii during the summer does not count as a cause for a heartache. THAT is just mere disappointment.

For some people, heartaches bring them tears of desperation. For some, it's just a lump in their throat that won't go away until their heart has healed a bit. For others, it's a pain so great that it is almost unbearable. Sometimes, heartaches will lead to depression, or even suicide (that's only if the person's fucked up in the first place.. but that's a shitload of psych that I won't get into). Sometimes, it will lead to smart epiphanies that in turn become a lifelong lesson learned.

Love is pain. Pain is love. The heart is made to ache. Why else are heart attacks so common?

I'm done. That was rather technical and boring.. someone else say something.

Do it. Do it.


  posted by MsKarenAu @ 11:09 PM

 
Too quiet! New question to be answered: what does it mean when you have a "heartache"?


  posted by E.C.tasy @ 1:08 PM